A contact nap is when your baby will only sleep on you, and it is one of the most normal (and back-testing) parts of early parenting. Here is why babies do it, whether it is a problem, and how to get through the contact-nap season without ending up in knots.
- Contact naps are normal. Babies sleep deeply and feel safe close to you.
- They are not a bad habit you need to break.
- Set yourself up so long holds do not strain your neck, back and arms.
- A supportive seat or ledge takes some load off during long holds. One arm still supports.
What is a contact nap and why do babies do it?
If your baby only seems to sleep when they're in your arms, you're definitely not alone.
A contact nap is simply when your baby sleeps while being held instead of in their cot. For many little ones, being close to you feels safe and familiar. Your warmth, heartbeat and gentle movements can help them relax, making it easier to settle and stay asleep especially during those early newborn weeks.
Are contact naps a bad habit?
No. Contact naps are developmentally normal and often a lifeline for parents trying to get any rest in the day. Plenty of babies move to independent naps in their own time. There is no rush and no harm in letting your baby sleep on you.
How to survive contact naps without back and neck pain
- Set up before they fall asleep. Water, snacks, phone charger and a cushion within reach.
- Support your arms and back with pillows so you are not holding tension for an hour.
- Keep your shoulders and jaw relaxed, and change position between naps.
- For upright contact naps and the settle-carry-settle cycle, a hip seat helps take the weight off your arms and onto your hips. One arm stays around your baby, so it is not hands-free.
Frequently asked questions
Are contact naps bad for babies?
No. They are normal and can help babies sleep more soundly in the early months.
Will contact naps create a bad habit?
Not usually. Most babies move towards independent naps over time. There is no need to force it.
How do I do contact naps without hurting my back?
Support your arms and back with pillows, keep your posture relaxed, change position between naps, and use a hip seat to shift weight to your hips during upright holds.
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